The year is progressing with a whimper instead of a bang. Gone are the fireworks and champagne corks. Life in mid January is not a holiday. You are back at work or you have school children and are waiting to return to work in two week’s time. The weather is super hot, your electricity bill is rising daily with the use of the air conditioner and you are tired. “Tired already?”, you ask yourself. Does this mean that the rest of this year will be a repeat of last year? Is fear setting in that none of your good intentions are going to be accomplished and you will be producing the same long list of desperate wishes for yourself for 2015? My advice is to find your passion and leave the fear behind. Let go of it, lose it, release it. Find your inspiration. Is it your children, your art, a cause? Let go of desperation and doubt. Your actions need to be motivated by hope and optimism. You have 11.5 months of 2014 to experience. What that experience will be is for you to influence. The year is after all a series of days simplified into weeks and months. What diary preference do you have? A day at a glance or perhaps a week to a view? Does one diary owner like a year better than another? Does the week to a view person want to hurry the year? However you record and plan your 2014, you are involved in the shaping of it. You can do it with hope and positivity or you can do it with gloom and a desire to speed it along. I choose the former. Why don’t you join me in a 2014 of amazing inspirational moments of wonder surrounded by loving people (look around as there is someone who loves you) creating unforgettable and precious memories? Let me hear you all say “I choose hope and inspiration”.
Sex is a topic which is talked about in hushed tones. No one really admits to going online to search for answers to their waning libido or erectile difficulties. You are probably reading this with one eye looking to see who is near. My Psychologist based close to the Adelaide CBD is a safe place to talk about sex. You struggle to get aroused despite loving foreplay from your husband, you are feeling guilty that you would rather masturbate than have sex with your wife, gay internet porn attracts you more than your hot boyfriend, you are about to have sex for the first time or you do not know when to time intercourse to conceive. These are all topics that My Psychologist has heard. There is no sniggering, no uncomfortable squirming, no red face by either the client or the psychologist! Sex is an important part of a relationship. By sex I do not mean just intercourse. Holding hands, kissing, touching and oral sex can all be part of a relationship and part of your concern. Just because something has been enjoyable for three years does not mean it is going to be enjoyable for another three. French kissing may have once been hot for you but now you would rather avoid his bristly beard. A long term sexual relationship does not endure just because you spend more time together. A long term sexual relationship lasts because you talk to each other and do different things or do the same things differently. Sometimes you want the slow date with dinner and movie before any clothes are removed. Sometimes all you want is a quickie. You may not be able to explain this to your partner and need help to start that conversation. Why not come and talk to My Psychologist where you do not need to talk in hushed tones? We can help you with your sexy talk.
There are others who will be permanently affected by a traumatic experience. You may be that person or know that person. You watch the deterioration before you and you feel the hopelessness and helplessness. Sleep is hard to attain, anger and irritability exist and there is emotional distance from others. The person withdraws from past significant activities and relationships and appears to be a shell of their former self.
Trauma does not result only from a war experience. People have accidents and people witness hold ups. Each person’s response is unique. Two people can witness the same traumatic event and only one shows clinically significant symptoms.
If you or someone you know has been traumatised by something please know that psychological therapy can help. Call us and let us listen to your story. We would like to help.